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What an odd thing to have right? In this day and age I should be able to walk from A to B at any time day or night feeling perfectly safe, comfortable in my own skin and not have to worry about being harassed. But alas that is not the case; apparently some of the human race has not evolved as much as others.
This diary is set over the course of about a two weeks and contains some of the ‘highlights’ of the shit I have to put up with and also a testament to my inner strength as I have yet to go ‘postal’ on anyone!
While out one night dancing with a group of friends (male and female) a guy smacks my ass, I instantly turn giving him my best ‘fuck off and don’t touch me I am busy getting my groove on’ face and continue dancing. I get smacked again, I turn and yell “fuck off” and continue to dance. Third times the charm right?? You guessed it! Once more I am smacked this time I turn around and push him away from me but he doesn’t like this and pushes me and my female friend, she threw her drink at him, at this point he goes for us thankfully his friend holds him back. By now the guys I am with have realized what is going on but we leave the dance floor for fear things will escalate. When leaving the premises I tell the owner what happened and described the dickhead, he does not seem happy and said he will bar him. RESULT!!!!
A few days later I am sitting in my car having an in-depth conversation with a female friend, she has the window partially down as she is smoking. Walking down the road I recognize a man who has approached me on a few occasions (apparently he likes my hair), on seeing him I put the keys in the ignition just in case. Of course he clocks me and comes over, practically leaning in the window saying he likes me hair and wants to ask me something, I say “go away please” he doesn’t, I say “JUST FUCK OFF” he doesn’t and proceeds to ask if we are lesbians. By now I have started the car and am pulling away, only then does he get the hint that I did not want to talk to him and finally fucks off.
This actually occurs about a week later. It is about 2AM and I am walking from my boyfriends place to my car, at the top of the hill I see 3 guys, I cross the road and keep walking. They see me and stop talking, now I am getting a bit nervous as there are 3 of them and I can’t see their faces as it is dark. Thankfully they don’t come near me but they do take the opportunity to roar over at me “hey baby come here I got something for you”. At this point I would like to point out how wrong it is that I have actually said I was thankful for JUST getting verbally harassed.
Three days later, while walking to my friend’s house on a Sunday morning, a group of teenage boys are walking across the road, one of them shouts “HEY! Are you trying to be nicky minaj with that hair or something?” (By now you are all probably wondering what kind of hair I must have as it always gets me such wonderful attention! At the moment it is quite long, neon pink and fantastic! Also for the record I would like to say I really dislike that minaj person and think she is an awful role model for young girls).
Two days later in the space of walking 100 yards, I first get obviously talked about, shouted at and laughed at by a couple of drunken students. After passing them out I pass two guys leaning on a car one says to me “Sorry love, I really like your hair. No, seriously, it’s lovely”. To which I reply thank you as he seemed genuine. I didn’t want or need the compliment but it is refreshing to hear that instead of the usual abuse I get.
So that is two weeks in my life. I know I am not the only one that has to put up with this kind of shit and I am really getting sick of it. That is why this organization is great for letting people vent and share their stories. It is also a good educational tool to show men how their actions can affect women. Again I would like to bring up the point about how terrible it is that I was thankful for only getting verbally harassed! I will also continue to have amazing hair, even if it does get me negative attention on occasion, it’s my hair and I wont be bullied into changing my appearance for anyone!
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